Monday, December 22, 2008

being in 20s - Something

This is a direct Cut Copy Paste from a source I can't remember, found it in my draft & posting it now, seems to be too apt now as waiting for so many results drives me nuts..!

It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are many things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like. You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now.

You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met, and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you don't recognize is that they are realizing that too, and aren't really cold, catty, mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you.

You look at your job... and it is not even close to what you thought you would be doing, or maybe you are looking for a job and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you.

Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and are constantly adding things to your list of what is acceptable and what isn't. One minute, you are insecure and then the next, secure.

You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life, but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away, and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.

You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you. Or you lie in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough that you want to get to know better. Or maybe you love someone but love someone else too and cannot figure out why you're doing this because you know that you aren't a bad person. One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap. Getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic. You go through the same emotions and questions over and over, and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision. You worry about loans, money, the future and making a life for yourself... and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender!

What you may not realize is that every one reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out. Send this to your twenty-something friends... maybe it will help someone feel like they aren't alone in their state of confusion...

We call it the "Quarter-life Crisis."


  1. If thz realizatn wr so easy then life wsnt evr tagd as gambling or u can say wud ve been so smooth..n d actual ecstasy of life wud ve lost widot d explortn...stil dis article ws wrth to b cut copy paste :)

  2. That's an optimistic perception serrah :) keep going,but it in ...a crisis remains a crucial situation which personally I would have preferred to avoid..!!

    Btw Thanks :) :)

  3. hmm.. a very true description of the 20's crisis situation..but i think this always has to be faced when a phase is over..after graduation it comes..if u do mba then again it comes after that, and again after certain years in the job..we always keep on analyzing, researching and finding the answers..but one difference all future situations you do have your past experiences..though that may or may not help you..But thats why the life is interesting and challanging..

  4. Yep Life teaches us to appreciate its beauty with its own rule & lessons..realizing this being the biggest achievement when one is in 20s or something :)